09 November 2013

Dating Your Kids

Today I had some special one-on-one time with each of the kids. Something that Kev and I try to do often, whether it be taking one of the kids to the grocery store with us or actually making a conscious effort to do something special with each one of them. However, with the hustle and bustle of life it easy to get stuck in a routine. With mine and Kev's opposing schedules these days, it leaves it hard for us to create this much needed one-on-one time. So today was one of those days where I basked in the special time that I was able to create with each child.

Kaydence and I spent an hour at the Library, Kaydence's favorite place these days. We roamed the shelves of the children section sitting and reading books out-loud and adding more and more books to our ever growing pile to be checked out. Kaydence loves reading; but her love for books runs deeper than the words on the pages. I watch her as she smiles when we enter the library and my heart smiles as I watch my three year old run her hands down the spine of books; taking in their feel and smell unable to hide her passion for the pages of paper with stories that take her to imaginary places she'd never dreamt of. She has always listened intently to books and at three is moving into books well past her age level. With the growing age of technology I fear that paper books will someday become a thing of the past and I can see that books are more than words for my girl. She needs to hold, to touch, to feel, to have these paper copies and I make it my personal mission to make sure she will have and abundant collection of classics and new stories in paper versions to keep forever.

My sweet blue eyed boy has croup. His deep "seal" like cough breaks my heart. Kam, unlike his sister, is not a cuddly, sweet sick child. He becomes grumpy and fits become frequent when he is ill. Today I did all that I could to soothe him but he is just plain unhappy and it is heard in his raspy intake of air, his forceful coughs and his grumpy demeanor. So tonight, under the urging of my husband, Kam and I took some special one-on-one time. For the first time ever since having my son, I took a warm relaxing bath with him. I bathed often with Kaydence before her brother was born. It was something that was a part of our schedule. However, when Kam was born the added chaos of having two meant not only did I not bathe with the kids, I didn't bathe at all. I have taken plenty of quick showers with both of the kids, mostly out of convenience and time efficiency; but it wasn't until I sat in the bath tonight with my sweet, sick boy that I realized I had never done this with him. Bath time is his favorite. He could spend hours in the bath splashing, pouring, coloring and playing. As I sat laughing and playing with my sweet boy I realized that I had let to much time go by without doing this. So I soaked up every minute of this first for us, teaching him how to kick his legs when swimming, splashing water everywhere and and just relaxing; just the two of us.

I love these special one-on-one times with my kids. Time spent fully embracing each child and their individual needs and wants. With baby #3 on the way I want my kids to know how much I love all three of them equally but I also want them to know how much I love each one of them individually! It is easy to get wrapped up in the ebb and flow of life, especially when you have more than one child. However it is important to make sure that you date your children, because like your spouse these very different and distinct relationships need their quality time to grow and flourish!

1 comment:

  1. It was a very cute post with lots of love to your kids. There are so many parents out there not having proper time to give to their children, causing their kids to become dull and forcing them to find other ways. But, your approach is really appreciable, and it would be great if everyone follows this with their kids. Kids are very sensitive and they also need time, love and affection by their parents, so they deserve this and they must be availed with proper time by parents.