19 May 2012

Mastering the Art of Me

I have recently noticed that in the last two years, since having Kaydence, I have often compared myself to other mothers. It has always seemed as though it is me vs. them, and I am always on the losing end. This mom writes better blogs than I, that mom does this thing with her kids daily that I don't, and this mom lost all her baby weight 6 weeks after having twins and here I have 4 months postpartum and still nowhere near my pre-pregnancy weight. I am constantly trying to achieve this idea of a perfect mother by picking the good qualities of all the mothers I know and applying them to myself. What I have began to realize, since having Kameron, is that there is no such thing as a perfect mother. Now that I have two children my days and degrees of mothering vary. Some days I whiz through the day I though I am June Clever; house clean, laundry done, banana bread baked, blog finished and kids fed and happy, all done before noon. And some days it seems as though the universe is giving me the big middle finger; both kids are up at 6am and grumpy, breakfast is donuts, house is mess, nothing has been accomplished and I am an emotional wreck. I have began to understand that you simply have to do what is right and good for your family.

Since better realizing that I have been acting crazy, I have come to discover who I really am. I have my faults but who doesn't? I am a so-so writer, I have little patience when it comes to waiting, and I am late for everything! I am clumsy, high strung, and emotional. I cry about everything and sometimes stress gets the best of me. However, I am learning to be proud of my good qualities. I am an amazing crafter, and a pretty good cook (when I try.) I am very organized, and a fantastic baker. I am hardworking, determined, and a very loving and caring mother to my kids. I have come to discover that when I stop trying to be everybody else, I do a pretty darn good job of being me. And let me tell you being me is much easier and way more enjoyable!

Mother's Day was last weekend and what a wonderful Mother's Day it was indeed! I spent the first part of the beautiful 80 degree day, on a date with my amazing little girl. My wonderful sister bought tickets for Kaydence and I to go see Elmo Live, as a Mother's Day gift. Although we do not allow Kaydence to watch television, she has come to learn of Elmo and the gang through a few of her toys and stickers that we buy her. She has definitely come to love Elmo, and I  knew she would have a blast at the show. 

We then preceded to dinner at a yummy Japanese restaurant with all of our close family and friends. This was a multipurpose dinner because not only was it Mother's Day but it was also my sisters 23rd birthday, as well as a farewell to a dear friend of ours who has recently embarked on a trip to everywhere and nowhere in particular. Sushi was my food of choice and great sushi it was!

Kameron had his four month check up on Monday and is growing and thriving very well! He is a giant big boy weighing in at 18lbs 2oz (>95th percentile) and 26in long (90th percentile). In the last two years of getting to know our pediatrician, we have have built a strong relationship and truly adore her! She talks to us about our kids as freely as one of our family members. She loved Kameron's "man-boobs," as she called them and told me I should take pictures of them before they go away so I can use as them as blackmail later. My sweet boy is starting to look more and more like his daddy each day. His blonde hair, blue eyes, and pale white skin have led many people, who see him and I together, to believe that he is adopted! Sometimes I can't even believe that he is mine:-) 

Sister is of course still her petite self, coming in only 4lbs heavier than her baby brother. Each day she gets smarter and smarter, and although I know I am biased I can't help but believe that she is an absolute genius! At only 22 months of age she is able to count to 11, recited her alphabet, distinguish between her left and right, recognize and state almost half of the letters in the alphabet, distinguish and recite her shapes, put together simple puzzles, and understand the basic colors; in addition to her impeccable ability to communicate both verbally and with sign language. Each day she impresses me more and more.

Summer sensory box

Kaydence's awesome geographic tongue (A harmless map like appearance of the tongue)

Just in case the pictures weren't enough, enjoy these fun videos of the kiddos! Click Here & Click Here!

Happy Weekend!

1 comment:

  1. This was, once again, so entertaining. I truly look forward to all the things you post. I am proud to be a part of this special Tatum family.