28 February 2012

Screw It All!

Ok, I am putting it out there for the world to know...I am a stay-at-home mom and I prefer to keep a clean house. A mortal sin I know! I have no shame in admitting that scrubbing the toilets every other day gives me peace of mind. That doing the dishes (as daunting of a task as they may seem sometimes) makes me happy. That dusting twice a week calms me. And that making all the beds each morning puts a smile on my face. I am an organized, clean person and I love it. For me, everything has a place and unless an item is being used than it needs to be where it belongs. Cleaning is second nature to me. Not something I would like to get around to but something that NEEDS to be done. And as a stay-at-home mom I feel that it is part of my job to make sure my home is clean, organized and presentable. I Just feel better when my house looks, feels, smells and IS clean. I have been seeing many quotes floating around Facebook, Pinterest and Twitter and while they are cute and all I don't think they give us "clean" moms a good reputation. I am not a neglectful mom because I clean my house and I don't believe that children are an exuse for a messy one. Just as I don't believe a messy house is indicative of a bad parent.

With all of that said, I am starting to learn that there are times when you just have to say screw it all! Screw the dishes, forget the laundry and to hell with the beds! The days I say forget it all are the days I spend more time with the kids. These are the days that I read more, color more, tickle more, and cuddle more. I adore my children and I LOVE spending time with them and there are just times that I get sick of hearing myself say, "after I finish the dishes" or "hold on one more minute lovebug" or "in a little while sweetheart." I am beginning to learn that while maintaining a clean house is still very important to me there are just some tasks that can wait until later. The laundry will be there tomorrow and forever but I won't always have the cutest 19 month old little girl asking me to read her a book or play peek-a-boo.

Conclusion:

I am a clean, tidy and organized mama who occasionally lets her house go awry but absolutely adores her children more than anything in this world. I am not a less attentive mama for maintaining  a clean house and I am not a bad mama for letting it go messy. All any good parent wants is to make sure that their children are healthy and happy, and that is what I strive for each day. I am just a mama, learning to relax and live in the moment. This is my now and that is all I am promised.




So if you will excuse me I now have some toys to leave scattered, beds to be left unmade, and some laundry to neglect.


" A good mom has a sink full of dishes, toys strewn about, laundry to fold, a dirty microwave and a clean conscience." -- Annonomous

21 February 2012

Here We Are


Well, here we are! Our first blog, and I am so excited:-) We decided to start blogging to to keep all of our family, friends and Youtube followers updated on what is going on with the family in between our Youtube vlogs. I also wanted this to be somewhat of a journal for the kids to look back on one day. I know that there are sometimes large gaps with our Youtube videos because we don't always have video footage to show you all. However, there is ALWAYS something going on in the Tatum household:-) With our blogs we can  fill you in on our day to day encounters, give you guys quick updates of the kids, show you some cool how-to ideas and recipes, do a few product reviews, and maybe even start a debate or two:-) This is a co-blog so there will be post from both Kev and I. His will be the ones with better grammar, syntax, diction, and spelling, haha. English was never my strong subject:-) So to start our first blog, I figured I would give you all an update on the family.

Kevin and I are both doing well. Adjusting to life with two kids and doing fairly well at it, I believe. There are a few things that I have come to realize will never be the same now that I have children. The most prevalent in my mind at the moment being grocery shopping. Now I know why my mother would always leave us kids at home when she needed to go to the store. Something that should take a half hour turns into a 2 hour ordeal. Kaydence has made it her job to grab any and everything off the shelves and I have come to learn that keeping these things from her only creates more madness. In turn, I have just succumbed to allowing her to have WHATEVER it is she wants...for the time that we are shopping. Yes, I have become that terrible person who has a shit ton of stuff that I do not intend to purchase in my cart, so on my way to the checkout I am secretly putting items wherever they may fit onto passing shelves. Kameron on the other hand has only 2 settings right now, sleeping while shopping or screaming while shopping, and I never know which one I am going to get. I can only imagine how I look, this disheveled mother with baby throw up on her shoulder bouncing up and down through the isles trying to keep the baby strapped to me quiet, while at the same time giving any and everything I can in reach to my antsy toddler who is desperately trying to claw her way out of the cart. Besides the normal parent woes, everything else is pretty normal for us. We are both still in school working hard for our degrees which seem to be forever away.







Kaydence and Kameron are both doing great! Kaydence is growing like a weed but is still quite petite. According to her 18 month check up stats she is 20lbs and 31ins long. She has a head full of dirty blond, curly hair and a personality like no other:-) She is speaking so well and in fact has a vocabulary well over the average toddler her age. Her signing vocabulary is somewhere between 100-200 words and most words that she can sign she can speak as well. She is also able to fully understand signed sentences that Kev and I sign to her. She is the pickiest of eaters these days, which of course worries her mama. Waffles, Mac & Cheese, and hot dogs being her 3 foods of choice:-) We attempted to potty train her last month but realized we jumped into it a little to quickly. We backed off a little bit but are still encouraging her to use the potty while getting a little more prepared for when she is a bit more ready. Kaydence adores her brother. She always wants to kiss, touch and be near him. I love that she is so good with him, she definitely is a sweetheart!








Kameron is already getting to be such a big boy. At his 2 week well baby check-up he was 9lbs 13oz and 21 inches long, and at 6 weeks old he is already close to 14lbs:-) He is still in the newborn phase so he is mostly doing a lot of eating and sleeping, but when he is awake he desperate for attention. He seems to be much more high maintenance than his sister was at this age, wanting to held and bounced constantly. He LOVES his sister, smiling at her all the time when she is talking to him or near by. He does have day/night confusion, which makes for a very sleepy mommy and daddy. However, the docs say that is usually resolves itself between 6-8 weeks so we are hoping relief is in our near future:-)








Well that is all I have for right now. I need to get off of the computer anyways, the distinct smell of poop just ran past me. Till next time, TTFN!